Rome welcomed Fakhra, but didn’t manage to save her

Elena Doni | | 1st June, 2012
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Fakhra Younus escaped with the help of her mother-in-law, Pakistani author Tehmina Durrani. - File photo

Fakhra Younus escaped with the help of her mother-in-law author Tehmina Durrani. – File photo

Fakhra Yunus was a Pakistani dancer from Karachi’s red-light district. In 2000, her face was disfigured by an acid attack: she accused her former husband, who has always maintained his innocence, and who was acquitted. Fakhra obtained political asylum in Italy, and she wrote a book about the experience called, ‘Il volto cancellato’ (‘The Erased Face) with journalist Elena Doni. On March 17, 2012, at the age of 33, she jumped from the sixth floor of her Rome apartment. We asked Elena Doni to reminisce about who Fakhra was: today this story will be published in three countries simultaneously – in Italy in La27esima ora, the women’s blog of newspaper Corriere della Sera, in Pakistan in Dawn, and in the United States in the American online magazine “Women Writers, Women Books”.

When Fakhra was acting whimsically, fickle, lazy, or bossy, in order not to get angry I would think of the “Divinas” in Europe from the beginning of the Twentieth century: they were singers or actresses who were celebrated by poets and who the public adored, something which never again happened in Italy. In Pakistan, Fakhra was a real diva, and millions of poor girls dreamed having success like her.

Fakhra told me about her childhood. She and her brothers were so terribly hungry, and they waited for their mother to come home every night after earning some money by selling her body. Later on, she realized that men became crazy for her dancing and threw plenty of money at her feet. By the time she turned 20 she had already become a star, acted in two films, and given birth to a baby boy, Noman. Fakhra married her “prince”, the son of the former governor of Punjab, who was immediately cut out of his father’s will. She told me that they fell into poverty, and he started drinking and became violent. She fled to her sister’s house to escape him, but her husband found her there and threw acid in her face, erasing her beauty forever. She spent months in the hospital. Afterwards her husband sequestered her in a far away country mansion.

Fakhra escaped with the help of her mother-in-law, Pakistani author Tehmina Durrani, a former wife of the governor of Punjab. Tehmina, who had influential friends in Italy, took her to Rome where she was introduced to the then- mayor Walter Veltroni. On the day that he received Fakhra in his office, he opened his windows overlooking the city: the ruins of ancient Rome were in the foreground and the modern buildings beyond. Veltroni said: “This city will not forsake you.”

Did Rome keep its promise? For many years we could have answered, “Yes.” Rome didn’t betray Fakhra. She received assistance from the health –care system, from the Smileagain NGO which hosted her for several years, from the Municipality which provided and apartment for Fakhra and her son, from the “Casa delle Donne” (House of Women) which gave her a place to stay when she arrived from Pakistan, and more recently from the NGO Co2, which recently remembered her with a music event.

When Fakhra arrived in Rome, the most urgent need was to find a surgeon who could help her. The first person that was contacted gave up after seeing her; the second one was Professor Valerio Cervelli. He decided that first of all, she needed to be able to raise her head again. She didn’t have a chin anymore, and her lips were attached to her chest. The surgery – an impossible mission according to other doctors, because she needed to be anesthetized but a cannula couldn’t be inserted in her throat – was performed successfully by Cervelli through endoscopic intubation. After a few days Fakhra was able to raise her head and look again at her child’s beautiful face. Thirty-eight more operations followed, all performed in Rome by Cervelli. She did not regain her beauty, but her face, although scarred, was a “normal” face.

All these people who loved Fakhra uselessly begged her for years to learn to read and write so that she could also find a job. But they failed. This is why the Italian publisher Mondadori asked if I would write a book about Fakhra’s life on her behalf. This is how “Il volto cancellato” (The Erased Face) was conceived. Fakhra would speak and I would write, and I would mix her life story with stories about Pakistani traditions, which are so different from ours. She would remember and I would write. This is how I got to know this “diva” who was so generous and spendthrift, funny and lazy, friendly and extremely tied to the traditions of her country. Day after day, I got to know her and to understand how difficult it was for her to accept our rules and habits.

One day, I was driving on a highway and she was sitting next to me when, all of a sudden, she said: “I want to have a driver’s license so I can buy a car and drive it myself.” I was driving slowly enough to show her a big green board on the side of the highway with a large white arrow pointing to the word “Rome”. I asked her to read it and Fakhra, impatient as ever, replied: “You know very well that I don’t want to learn to read!” That day we laughed together, but I believe that her inability to make this country become “her” country was one of the causes of Fakhra’s desperation.

When we worked on the book, she gave me a pretty necklace of strange, smooth little stones which I keep on my desk to this day. I don’t wear it anymore, but I often look at it with a mix of melancholy and anger, because so many of us didn’t manage to save her, and I ask myself: “Why?”

COMMENTS

  1. Indubitably, the world needs more kind & compassionate humans like Tina Durrani. After reading her letter to the Italian ambassador, i was totally appalled to learn about the further, totally unnecessary, torment poor Fakhra Yunas had to undergo during her last days in Italy. Her subjection to immense suffering and mental anguish was further exacerbated by the treatment meted out to her by her own embassy in Italy. Were the staff members at the Embassy of Pakistan in Rome unaware of this woman’s plight to treat her in such a manner?! Or were they simply devoid of any semblance of basic compassion apportioned to humans?! Either ways, it is incumbent on the authorities in Pakistan to investigate this matter and remove those miscreants from positions of authority, which seemingly goes beyond their capacity to handle.

    May Fakhra Yunas be embraced in God’s Love eternally!

  2. This story is breath taking. But this doesn't make me ashamed of being a Pakistani because you can find rotten eggs in any farm. But yet I'm extremely disappointed and depressed that unfortunately we have some shameless, abhorrent black sheep among us who are not only ruining the sanctity of our forefathers and religion but also seriously hurting (though its a small word to be used) others. No matter how sinful someone may be, nobody has right whatsoever to ruin someone's life like this. I would say that whoever commit such a sinful, inhuman act of acid attack must be hanged to death right away making them threat for every human. May Allah bless us with such a courage that we respect our women and accept their existence as Allah Almighty has taught us in the Holy Quran. May Allah bless us all. amen

  3. Tehmina Durrani herself stated that "the real power of feudal landlords like Khar is derived from the distorted version of Islam that is supported by the mullahs and maulvis". Islam nowadays became a very abused religion in the hands of males who justify mistreating woman resorting to hadiths that say women are the majority in hell or those which say women are predisposed to lesser intelligence than men.

  4. Dr. Rashid Habib

    One of the most important aspect of this article is about how Fakhra started her life at home, then became dancer and then married to a spoiled rich man……Please note the importance of education over here…….which is one of the main reasons for so many bad things happening to our beloved country……if this girl had opportunity for getting some education her sole thinking about life would have changed……she would have adpapted another profession for survival…she would have never married this guy…and even if she was in the situation like this she would have the courage as well as skills of living/survival in this world……if we look back to the failure of Pakistani governments and ultimately leading to the sufferings of Paksitan again you will find the illeteracy the main reason…..why we are having the same old corrupt politicians every time again and again….because our major population is illeterate and doesnot have the IQ to differentiate between what is good or bad for them…..We have to work on our education as well as education system from the gross root level other wise everything will be a failure….Lastly may allah give strenght and courage to save our country from all the evils.