YOU must have heard the expression a hundred times: ‘Poor thing! He has the sort of face that only a mother’s love can bear.’ But who — other than a plastic surgeon — could bear to look on the face of someone ravaged by another human being?

By any standards of brutality, for even cruelty has its own thresholds of intensity and of pain, being disfigured by acid must rank at the upper end of the scale — if there must be one.

At the lower end, one would imagine there would be the humiliating punishment French women accused of collaborating with the German occupation forces were made to undergo. They had their heads shorn and were spat upon by those who remembered that they had once been in the French Resistance.

But an acid attack? That is — dare one say it — akin to if not worse than murder, because a murder victim dies but once. An acid victim dies every day. Every acid attack not only mutilates the features of an individual; it disfigures the entire visage of a nation.

In our country, our national consciousness has become inured to violence. Every drop of blood shed senselessly has over time numbed our senses. We endure, but we no longer feel; we suffer, but we no longer complain.

We accept the worst in us, not because we do not know better, but because we are consciously metamorphosing ourselves from a state of passive masochism to one of active sadism. We remain silent and detached when, in the poet Dylan Thomas’s words, we ‘should burn and rave at close of day; rage, rage against the dying of the light’.

A recent writer travelled throughout our country and during his researches, he encountered a Pathan grandmother Dr Shamim Gul, who must now be in her 60s. He identified her as “the only police surgeon in Balochistan” whose unenviable duty it was to conduct post-mortems on the victims (always female) of honour killings.

He described her as “the most remarkable person” he had met during his extensive travels throughout our hard country, and without lapsing into hyperbole, asserted that she was “very much more of a man than the vast majority of the men” he had encountered.

There would be millions of men in Pakistan who on reading that sentence would rush to disagree. There is however a growing number of women — minuscule but increasing — who are proving by their courageous deeds that gender is not an exclusive club; it is simply an accident of nature.

Two Pakistanis have won an Oscar this year — one happens to be a female and the other male. Their gender does not matter.

What does matter is the work they are doing. The female is of course our Sharmeen Obaid-Chinoy who has won an Oscar for the documentary Saving Face.

The other recipient (by association and by inspiration) must be not just her co-director Daniel Junge but equally Dr Mohammad Jawad, the surgeon who devotes his time to repairing the face of acid attack victims. He reconstructs their faces and equally importantly restores some shred of dignity to their maimed lives, just as Sharmeen has restored to our ravaged nation some semblance of an all-too-precious self-respect.

There are two moments in our history when our nation has coalesced seamlessly into one identity: the first was in 1992 when 11 Pakistanis as a team won the Cricket World Cup, and the second 20 years later was when one Pakistani — Sharmeen Obaid- Chinoy — won an Oscar.

We all know that the Oscars ceremony is a well-rehearsed, faultlessly conducted homage to a primarily American film industry, the shiny statuette its golden idol. To be fair, though, for the past 84 years since Oscars were first awarded, every category of endeavour is now acknowledged and the best among them honoured. What began as an annual paean of praise to American cinema has now broadened to include the international film scene.

There could be no Pakistani therefore who has been left unmoved by the Oscars awards ceremony this year, just as there could be no neighbouring Irani who has been left unmoved that a film from his country was also awarded an Oscar for the Best Foreign Language film. Ironically, for Pakistan and for Iran — two states teetering on the verge of being ostracised — suddenly being a pariah is in.

At the end of her dignified acceptance speech, Sharmeen dedicated her film to “all women of Pakistan working for change”. Her message was as much for Pakistani women as for Irani women cloaked in their chadors.

The price of success, as Sharmeen Obaid-Chinoy will discover, is that the number of people who talk about her film will far exceed those who will ever see it, just as there will predictably be a disproportionately larger number of persons who will be drawn towards the Acid Survivors Foundation than who will actually support it.

That is in the nature of things. After all, we are only human. And it is because we are human that whenever we see Ms Obaid-Chinoy’s film, we should remember that it is more than an award-winning documentary.

At different levels, it is a sensitively rendered narrative, a warm tribute to the plastic surgeon Dr Muhammad Jawad, a benchmark for other Pakistan film-makers to emulate, and at its highest level a moving act of forgiveness and courage. By allowing themselves to be filmed, these brave victims have bared their scars to the camera. They have turned the other cheek towards their assailants because they don’t have another cheek left to turn.

The writer is an author and educationist.