SANAA: The deal is simple: I marry your sister and you marry mine. No dowry necessary. But if one marriage fails, the other must end as well.

Such is Sheghar, or swap marriage, a widely practised tradition in impoverished Yemen. Beyond tying the knot between two people, it links the future of two families in a potentially disastrous arrangement.

In a country where child marriages remain customary, swap marriage is also rife, particularly in rural areas of the Arabian Peninsula nation, despite the often destructive consequences of the practice.

Muslim scholars have ruled that Sheghar marriage is not Islamic, but many in Yemen’s conservative society believe that it cements family ties, and keeps the inheritance within the family as most swaps take place between relatives.

Ahmed Abdullah, 70, described swap marriage as a “marriage of regret” as he painfully narrated the story of his son who could not cope with losing his wife over his sister's divorce.

“I agreed with my dearest friend to arrange a marriage for our two sons in this way ... After two years, my daughter and her husband could not get on well,” which led to her returning to her parents' home, he said.

“The moment she returned, my son's wife left his house. The problem is that he really loved her,” he said, adding that eventually both couples were forced to divorce.

“My son lost his mind because of the pressure we put on him to divorce his wife,” he said.

One of the reasons leading to the spread of swap marriages in rural areas is the lack of education for women who remain too weak to reject the will of their male-dominated families.

Most women in Yemen do not have the option of disobeying the family because that would amount to challenging the whole clan, which is far more concerned about preserving its honour than it is about the life of a woman on the verge of losing her family.

Ali and Nasser married each other's sisters. After several years, Ali divorced his wife. But when his sister refused to leave Nasser, her family and cousins stormed her house and forced Nasser to divorce her.

Revenge yet to be settled

The dispute led to armed clashes between the two families which resulted in the death of Nasser’s brother-in law.

“The revenge is yet to be settled between the two families,” said Saeed al-Waeli, a relative of the victim.

Swap marriages are not reserved for the poor and illiterate in Yemen.

College graduates may also be forced into them.

Thirty-five-year old university graduate Mohammed Saeed said that although he was fully aware of the dangers of swap marriages, he was forced into one by his family so that his older sister could be married.

“My parents realised that they could hit two birds with one stone,” he said.

“I suffered endless problems for seven years, and so did my sister. When I couldn't bear it any longer I divorced my wife. She took my son and daughter with her. I haven't seen them in four years,” he said.

“My sister also returned to her parents' place along with her three children,” he added.