Right after the incident with friends from my cycling group, Zaira and Zeeshan. —Photo provided by author Another reason for not sharing it publicly was to avoid discouraging other female cyclists from pursuing this activity.
After many years, the number of female cyclists in our group had recently seen a spike and I wanted the numbers to keep growing.
I gave it a lot of thought and decided that remaining silent about this incident was not the solution. I needed to speak up.
Harassment is real — any girl who has been born and raised in Pakistan experiences it every day, so much so that it starts to feel normal, something you're conditioned to live with. We begin to internalise it.
We face harassment in schools, markets, workplaces, and we face harassment while we're trying to get these places, on a bicycle or otherwise.
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I wasn’t going to let this deter myself or other women from cycling, with this thought, I shared the incident as a public post on my Facebook profile.
I wasn't sure what reaction my revelation would bring. I was expecting to receive some negativity. But only comments and messages of support poured in from all corners of the world.
A lot of people suggested that I have a male accompany me whenever I was going cycling, as it is not safe for girls to cycle alone, and while I respect the concern, that is not the solution to this urgent problem that requires profound cultural change. Today.
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What if I want to cycle alone? What if I don’t want the company of men to make me feel safe in my own city?
Recently, Lahore has seen an upsurge in street crimes; one feels unsafe while walking, cycling or driving on the road.
We need to make our cities safer, not just for women but also for men.
While campaigns are being devised to empower women in public spaces, such as the ‘Pink Rickshaw Scheme’ and ‘Women on Wheels’ , none of these initiatives will fully empower women until the root cause of the problem is addressed.
And to address it, we have to talk about it.
Those harassing women do it in a culture of impunity. Until they are not called out, until they are not punished, street harassment will not see any signs of abating in Pakistan.
For starters, I can't wait to get back on my bike again.