'My father’s killer was sentenced to death at the age of 17; I forgive him and don't want him hanged'
I was 17-years-old when my father was killed. The boy who was arrested for his murder was the same age as me. He went to jail and was sentenced to death.
It was easy to be angry. It was easier still to hate him. After all, Muhammad Iqbal had no reason to do what he did to my family. But it happened anyway and we were powerless to stop it.
Suddenly, our household was in trouble. My father was our only source of income who had always taken care of everything, and with his death everyone turned to me – his eldest.
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I had to find the means to support my four siblings and mother. Anger, sorrow and vengeance had to be put aside. There was no time for it. And with hard work, I realised, there was no use for it either.
I used to console my mother, and tell her that God was with us. That He would protect us. And He did.
With time, honesty, and hard work we were able to bring our lives back on track. We now have a small dairy business and I run a general store.
Things have been better. I now have school-going children of my own.
But Iqbal’s future may as well not exist.
Iqbal went to jail and has been there since 1999. He has spent more time in his life inside prison than outside it. He has, quite literally, grown up on death row.
Iqbal’s brother, Abbas, found his way to me a few years ago. He was a man weighed down – bent over by the terrible weight of knowing the magnitude of his request, almost broken by the knowledge of what his younger brother was going through.
At first, I was livid and turned him away.
But he came, again and again. He begged us again and again. People will do everything they can to save a loved one. And killing his brother will not bring back my father.