One in five married couples in Pakistan has fertility issues. As more and more Pakistanis opt to adopt as an alternative route to building families, are societal attitudes towards adoption changing?
It is April 2017. A couple is waiting anxiously outside the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) of a private hospital in Karachi. The woman is peeping inside, trying to catch a glimpse of her newborn. Soon, the wait is over. A nurse asks for the ‘mother’ to come inside the NICU. The woman stands stunned in disbelief. This is the first time someone has referred to her as a mother. With evident incredulity on her face and tears welling up, she enters the NICU. As soon as she holds her tiny baby in her arms, the floodgates open and a stream of tears gushes down the mother’s cheeks.
Over two years later, Javaria Javed retells the birth story of her daughter to me. She speaks about her struggles and journey to adoption so clearly and with such attention to detail that her story begins to play like a movie in my head. The star of the movie is Minha, Javed’s ‘miracle baby’. Javed named her baby Minha because she liked the name’s meaning — a gift from God.
Javed believes that Minha truly is a gift for her. The young mother previously had an ectopic pregnancy — a rare pregnancy complication in which the embryo attaches outside the uterus. The pregnancy ended with a miscarriage and kidney damage to Javed. Being a newly wedded woman in her twenties, the loss of her unborn baby and her deteriorating kidney health were devastating for her and her family. To make matters worse, she was also advised to avoid pregnancy for the foreseeable future.
Today, it is Minha who motivates Javed to keep going despite her ailments. A year ago, the young mother had a kidney transplant, which impacted her hip bone. She can barely move without assistance now. The doctors had seen this coming. But for a young woman who was healthy until she conceived, this was a hard reality to accept. Childlessness comes with its own set of challenges but it becomes more distressing when accompanied by other health issues. Javed kept switching gynaecologists and nephrologists in her quest to find someone who could offer her some hope.
Eventually, a doctor did give her hope, just not the kind she expected. During her recurring visits to the doctor, she was advised to consider adoption. While the idea clicked with her husband instantly, Javed shrugged it off at first. In our society, adopting a child comes with its own baggage. Today, Javed clearly thinks adoption was one of the best decisions she ever made. She cannot imagine her life without her little bundle of joy, her miracle gift from God.
THE ADOPTION QUESTION
Most couples who think about adoption in Pakistan are battling some sort of fertility problems. The World Health Organization (WHO) defines infertility as “a disease of the reproductive system defined by the failure to achieve a clinical pregnancy after 12 months or more of regular unprotected sexual intercourse.” Primary infertility refers to couples who have never conceived while secondary infertility refers to couples who are unable to conceive after one year of unprotected intercourse following previous pregnancies.
Infertility affects up to 15 percent of reproductive-aged couples around the world. According to a study published in the Pakistan Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology in 2017, the infertility rate in Pakistan is higher and stands at around 22 percent — with four percent of these being cases of primary infertility and 18 percent being secondary infertility cases. In other words, one in five married couples in the country has some sort of fertility problems.
Even though the use of assisted reproductive technology (ART), such as in vitro fertilisation treatment (IVF) or intrauterine insemination (IUI) has helped millions of couples around the world to become parents, these treatments do not guarantee a successful pregnancy.
But despite the prevalence of the problem, couples dealing with infertility often find themselves alone and ill-informed about their options. While Javed had a doctor who suggested she consider adopting a child, not everyone has such guidance. Most doctors do not mention adoption as an option, and there is a lack of counselling, especially when couples are considering adopting a baby.
Although adoption is not a medical event, in many cases, gynaecologists find themselves at the centre of it because of their expertise in handling infertility, pregnancy and childbirth. The recently dissolved Pakistan Medical and Dental Council advised physicians to provide support to all parties involved in adoption. Their code of conduct had suggested that, “Doctors shall remember that, in cases of proposed adoption, there are several parties involved, all of whom need continued support and counselling. Pregnant women who are considering giving up their babies for adoption shall be helped to approach advisory bodies or attorneys as the circumstances may be.”
This is not the case in Pakistan alone. The Committee on Ethics of the American College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists also urges physicians to provide free, accurate and unbiased information about adoption to “appropriate” patients. It elaborates that a discussion about adoption may be appropriate for patients who are infertile or for patients in whom pregnancy may be dangerous. The committee advises physicians to provide situation-appropriate information about infertility treatments, adoption and child-free living to the patient so they can make the correct decision.
TWO GENERATIONS
Farheen Effandi is in her early forties. She was only six months old when, in 1976, her parents came from the UK to Pakistan and adopted her. They had sought permission from the UK government for adopting a child from their native Pakistan. They raised their only child with a lot of love.
Today, Effandi is also lovingly raising one daughter like her parents. And like them, she too adopted her daughter. But even though Effandi was an adopted child herself, her road to adoption was not easy.
Effandi and her husband Omar Chaudari were married in 2004 and decided to visit a specialist after trying to conceive naturally for a few years. They were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. Effandi and Chaudari considered adopting a baby from Pakistan but, being based in Australia at the time, certain legal restrictions kept them from doing so.
Currently, Australia has an active inter-country adoption arrangement with 13 countries, referred to as partner countries, and does not accept adoption visa applications for children who have been adopted from Pakistan. Effandi says that, being from Pakistan, she and Chaudari knew how many babies are abandoned and thrown in the trash in their country, and so they wanted to adopt from Pakistan. But luck was not on their side. “We also requested [the Australian government] to let us adopt from Pakistan as an ad hoc adoption but we were denied,” Effandi tells Eos.
“After the diagnosis we went for an IVF [in vitro fertilisation treatment] but it didn’t work,” Effandi says. “Over the years, we ended up having four IVFs.” Even though the use of assisted reproductive technology (ART), such as IVF or intrauterine insemination (IUI) has helped millions of couples around the world to become parents, these treatments do not guarantee conception or successful pregnancy.
IVFs are reportedly becoming increasingly common in Pakistan too, but there is a lack of reliable data regarding the treatment. While the success ratio of fertility treatments in Pakistan cannot be determined due to the lack of statistics, according to findings provided at the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology’s annual meeting last year, women who undergo IVF have a 27.1 percent possibility of the procedure resulting in pregnancy.
Dr Sadiah Ahsan Pal, the medical director at the Concept Fertility Centre Pakistan, says that patients at the centre are clearly informed about the chances of the treatment failing beforehand. Still many patients opt for the treatment.