Dear Auntie Agni,
I am a 17-year-old FSc. 2nd Year student, studying in my dream college and I love it. I have completed my first year and got really good marks but I am really struggling in my second year. I can’t focus. I have only one question in my mind all the time: “What is the purpose of my life?” What if after I get good grades in my second year, I am not able to secure admission in my dream university?

The Gaza war has especially forced me to think about the purpose of a human’s life. I see dead bodies of children my age and think when they were alive nobody cared but now that they are dead everybody is mourning. I believe the purpose of one’s life is to improve another person’s life, but I don’t think I ever impacted someone’s life. I don’t know what to do after my second year. There is no-one to guide me and I cannot afford admission counsellors.
Clueless Student.

‘What is my life’s purpose?’

Dear Clueless Student,
When confronted with the harsh realities of the world, it is normal to question one’s purpose. Your concerns about the Gaza war tell me you have a deeply empathetic nature.

Finding your purpose is a journey, and it’s okay not to have all the answers right away. Use your time in college to explore different subjects and gain experience. This should help you to discover your passion.

If you want to know why you are here, take some time to reflect on your interests and your values. What activities make you lose track of time? What issues do you feel deeply about?

In your email, you have mentioned that improving other people’s lives is why you believe we are here. This is a noble perspective and you should think about how your interests can align to create a positive impact on your community. Making a difference doesn’t always have to be on a large scale. Small acts of kindness and positive contributions to your immediate environment can also create an impact.

As for your dream university, I truly wish you get the admission. At the same time, it is important to recognise that life can take unexpected turns. Be open to alternative paths and opportunities that may arise. Success isn’t about getting into a particular institution.

If you’re feeling confused, consider talking to a teacher, or someone you trust who may be able to offer guidance based on their own experiences.

In the meantime, calm your mind by practicing some form of meditation. This can help bring a sense of clarity, allowing you to better understand your thoughts and feelings.

Give yourself the time and space to explore, learn, and grow. You have a whole journey ahead of you, and each step you take contributes to your personal growth.

Disclaimer: If you or someone you know is in crisis and/or feeling suicidal, please go to your nearest emergency room and seek medical help immediately.

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Published in Dawn, EOS, November 26th, 2023