Dear Auntie, 
I hope you’re well. I am a 26-year-old man from a Pashtun family, with a degree in political science that I completed two years ago. I’ve aspired to secure a lecturer position and have attempted to apply several times, but my study habits have held me back from making meaningful progress.

Recently, I married my cousin and, while it’s been a joyous change, balancing my responsibilities has made it difficult to stay focused on my studies. To support my family, I’ve started a business. However, I’m finding it challenging to expand it as much as I’d like.

My wife is a university student and managing her educational expenses alongside other responsibilities has created financial pressures. I’d be grateful for any advice on how to navigate these demands and establish a stable foundation for our future.
Responsible

‘How Do I Balance Family, Finances and Career?’

Dear Responsible,
You’re shouldering a lot of responsibilities, which is commendable. Balancing family, career ambitions and financial pressures can be overwhelming, especially when you have recently been married and also started a business venture.

First, let’s look at your academic ambitions. You might feel that your study habits are holding you back, but don’t let that deter you. Start setting aside time every day to study consistently. Even a 30-minutes-a-day routine would help you make steady progress. You should also check out short courses that can help you sharpen your teaching skills and build your confidence. You could also look for online options to improve your skills. This could not only improve your qualifications, but also enhance your application for the lecturer position.

Slow and steady wins the race. Keep focusing on your goals, and know that even small progress is still progress. Good luck — you’re building a future for your family and that’s no small feat.

As for your business, setting clear and achievable targets could help you grow in manageable stages. Look at areas where you can build on what you’ve already achieved, focusing on aspects that are low-cost, but have the potential for growth. Also, consider seeking advice from other entrepreneurs who can provide guidance on budgeting and expansion strategies.

Financial pressures are natural, especially in the early stages of marriage. Have a candid  conversation with your wife about expenses and what your objectives are, so it can help set mutual goals. Maybe there are ways she can contribute, such as taking on part-time work if she has the time, or perhaps you can explore any financial aid options available at her university.

Remember that you don’t need to do it all perfectly at once. Slow and steady wins the race. Keep focusing on your goals, and know that even small progress is still progress. Good luck — you’re building a future for your family and that’s no small feat.

Disclaimer: If you or someone you know is in crisis and/or feeling suicidal, please go to your nearest emergency room and seek medical help immediately.

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Published in Dawn, EOS, November 10th, 2024