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Published 16 Jan, 2011 04:31am

Self help: To a happier you!

Meet an optimistic person and you would always find him happy all the time. Such people wouldn’t give you any specific reason for their attitude but it is perhaps because they think we should all live life with one aim and that is to be happy. We need a lot of things in life, like money or good health but they are all geared towards one aim: to be happy. So there’s only one thing you want in life — happiness!

If we realise that life is just too short and live every moment of it, be happy and make others feel good too, then we will enjoy every bit of this short life. Here are some secrets to a happier you:

Be optimisticWhen you see half a glass of water how do you perceive it, as half full or half empty? If you perceive it as half full that means you are happy. When we have a choice to see our glass as half full or empty why not choose to see the better side? To live a happy life, learn to hope for the best and kick worry out of your life! Don’t worry even if things go wrong because that’s all part of life.

Count your blessingsMany of us have a lot that others desperately want. The best way to realise that is to look at the underprivileged. If they can be content with whatever they have how can we not be happy? You have the ability to see, read, smell and eat… etc.! With all these blessings you have everything to be happy. So count your blessings and thank the Almighty for them.

Control your desiresUnderstand that not everything is attainable! So control your desires because having high and unrealistic desires can make you unhappy. And if you really want something then work hard for it. Put in your efforts to achieve it. Desire may motivate us to accomplish a task but we need to bear in mind that if the desire is unrealistic, we become disillusioned and unhappy. So don’t let unattainable desires spoil your mood.

Simplify your lifeLife today is too hectic and complicated. This is because we are doing more than we can. We have reached the maximum of our capacity but are not ready to accept that. So try to simplify your life. If certain friends are adding to your problems talk to them or leave them. It may seem rude, but a friend never increases your problems and if he/she is making your life complicated then he/she isn’t a true friend.

Get the job you loveIt has been proved that people who love their work tend to live a happy life. So if you are being offered a job that you love at a lower pay, then take it because pay doesn’t matter as much as happiness does.

Let go of the pastForget bad experiences from the past. It might not be as easy as said, but make an effort to forget them. Realise that the past is gone, never to return. And you have all the right to move on and live a happy life. Think of the opportunities waiting for you in life and grab those opportunities instead of pondering over what happened earlier.

Don’t miss the small happiness in lifeUnderstand the fact that simple and small things like the sunshine, rain, cool air, a particular song, a chat with someone or a chocolate can make you happy. Enjoy these simple things in life.

Believe that you deserve to be happyIf you start thinking that you don’t deserve happiness, chances are you won’t get it either. So try to believe that it is your right to be happy and you deserve to get your right. If your belief is firm enough, you will live a happy and better life.

Strengthen relationshipsTry to develop a strong relationship with your friends and family. Look after them, care for them and they will do the same for you in return which will make you feel happy. Also try to get in touch with long lost friends. Talking to them will relax you and make you feel happy. It is said that friends double the fun, so make good friends and enjoy life with them.

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